NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS
Unfiltered, candid thoughts on pop culture, music, love, spirituality, healing, depression, grief + whatever else comes up. The voice? Multilingual maven of the mic, your favourite dyke's favourite dyke, Yvonne Onakeme Etaghene. Ijaw Urhobo Nigerian dyke poet, author of For Sizakele, performer, dancer, visual artist, bad gyal, fashion designer and creative director of OyinT. Designs, cook, goddess and a real one.
Episodes
30 episodes
Which Is Better? A Little Poison? Or No Poison?
A little abuse once in awhile? Or no abuse at all? Which do you prefer? When you tolerate a little disrespect, a little shade, a rude comment here or there, you are accepting a little poison. A little poison is still poison. All that little add...
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Episode 30
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15:43
You Are Someone's Favorite
You. Yes, You. You are someone's favorite artist. Favorite nail tech. Favorite painter. Favorite writer. Favorite dancer. What you are working on right now will change someone's life--starting with you. Something you wrote, painted or created i...
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Episode 29
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23:40
What If Writers Were Considered Athletes? Would That Change How You Create Art?
What if as a writer you were considered an athlete and your writing was your sport--how would you approach your art differently? Would your writing practice change? Do you wait for inspiration? Or do you create regardless of whether you are ins...
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Episode 28
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9:32
You Don't Owe Anyone the Performance of Perpetual Happiness
When you try to force yourself to be happy all the time, you stifle the valleys, the peaks, the flatlands, the mountains, the diverse emotional topography of the land that is you. Allow yourself to be who you are and feel how you feel. Allow yo...
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Episode 27
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17:58
control who has access to you & change your life
filter out of your life people who don't deserve you, trust me, you your & peace increases. seeking answers from someone who hurt you is pointless, in my opinion, because even if they tell you the precise genesis of why they harmed you--you...
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Episode 26
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12:54
your curiosity about my life is not something i am required to satisfy
When people are being nosy, leave their questions unanswered. Especially when living an unconventional life, taking a unique path in life or choosing to be child-free--you will be questioned by the nosy and the presumptuous. Don't entertain the...
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Episode 25
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5:56
not every hobby has to be a money maker
Make time for the things you care about. Hobbies are important. Not every moment you spend in your life should be spent making money. Do your best to make some time for art that is purely for your own pleasure, enjoyment, release and/or self-ex...
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Episode 24
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12:14
You Ever Do An Artist Self-Evaluation?
Some questions to ask yourself when evaluating your work, your process, your practice, your journey as an artist.
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Episode 23
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9:38
self-doubt is you betting against yourself
A more efficient use of your energy? Believe, truly believe, it works out perfectly for you.
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Episode 22
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24:49
Children Are Not A Retirement Plan
Just as you plan for every aspect of your life, so too must you plan for retirement. Children are a blessing, not a retirement plan or financial investment you should be expecting a return on. Feeling entitled to your children taking care of yo...
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Episode 21
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30:51
Black Sheep, Unicorns & Breaking Generational Curses
What does it mean to say no to abuse in an abusive family? Being the one to change a family dynamic or break toxic emotional patterns takes a lot of strength and courage. Sometimes the person with that courage becomes the black sheep, exiled fr...
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Episode 20
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53:58
As Artists, What Happens When We Change?
Do we make room for artists to change and explore who they are and what they most desire to create? Do we allow artists to create their own vibe/sound/aesthetic before calling them tired, over or overrated? Do artistic eras exist anymore? How h...
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Episode 19
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52:33
Heartbreak Na Your Mate?!
Heartbreak comes in many forms. Whether from a romantic breakup, friendship breakup or as a result of trauma, grief or other life experiences. Heartbreak can come into our lives for a million reasons. How do you heal from it? How do we deal wit...
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Episode 18
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44:12
Whose Standards Are You Actually Living By?
Do you feel self-conscious about what you truly desire? Whose standards are you living your life by? Your own? Or your friends? Your parents? What's allowed in your space and what's not? Are you chasing your dreams? Or someone else's idea(l) of...
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Episode 17
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15:07
Your Energy Is Your Power & Thoughts On Forgiveness
Is forgiveness necessary for your soul's growth and healing? Some things are unforgivable. You deserve healing regardless of whether you choose to forgive. Energy is food, is power. You feed and empower what you give energy t...
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Episode 16
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28:57
Prayer Don Expire! & Calling Back Your Energy
Not everyone deserves your prayers. If they don't deserve that prayer, put an expiration date on it and direct that loving energy to someone who deserves it--YOU!
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Episode 15
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15:49
Are You Your Own Soulmate?
Legendary singer, actress, dancer, Eartha Kitt said: "It's about falling in love with yourself and sharing that with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit." This episode explores this qu...
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Episode 14
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19:33
#SARSMustEndNow | Nigerian Youth Are TIRED | Political Context of SARS
Protests have been ongoing for six days in Nigeria and throughout the world against SARS (the Special Anti-Robbery Squad), a section of the Nigerian police that murder, steal, commit violence against and extort money from Nigerian citizens. #SA...
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Episode 13
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34:19
F**k Being Likable. Do YOU Like You?
The idea of "being likable" has been used to suppress women, African women in particular. In this episode, I discuss the invisible impact of colourism, the ways it's often ignored and dismissed. Also: I talk a bit about never taking your own be...
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Episode 12
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35:14
LOYALTY!
Everyone needs a code in this world, my love. Exploring loyalty to self, to others, to versions of yourself. My thoughts on LOYALTY as a choice and a gift, rather than compulsory. Take a listen.
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Episode 11
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11:35
FROM BROKEN TO MOSAIC: a spiritual journey & heeding the call of my soul
This is a Special Edition of the podcast! This is the audio from my YouTube channel exploring: What does it mean to embark on a new spiritual journey? To heal from grief, take care of your mental health, be vulnerable *and* listen to your heart...
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Episode 10
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21:04
BREAKING NEWS! Wait What?!?! Joe Biden Chooses Kamala Harris As Vice Presidential Running Mate
I got a text at 2:01pm from the Joe Biden campaign announcing Kamala Harris, California Senator and former presidential candidate, as his Vice Presidential nominee. I was so shocked by this choice! Take a listen and find out why.
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Episode 9
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39:21
Celebrating Life ALWAYS No Matter the Circumstance
What exactly is the meaning of a birthday in the midst of a global pandemic? Live and direct, Yvonne celebrates her birthday, talks about divinity, the meaning of life and transforming pain and depression into lessons. Beyond cookie cutter advi...
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Episode 8
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40:34
What About African Dykes Tho?!
In conversations about gay tingz, apparently all the gays are men and all the women are straight. WHAT ABOUT AFRICAN DYKES THO?! In recent news, Philip Schofield, British ITV new presenter, came out as gay, after 27 years of marriage to a woman...
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Episode 7
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49:01
From Henna Tattoos to Jerk Chicken
Yv. nerds out about the origins and history of henna not only as a beautiful form of body art over 5,000 years old, but also the plant henna comes from and its medicinal, spiritual and cosmetic uses. Henna is used all over the world--in Tunisia...
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Episode 6
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46:01